Increased interest and inclination towards sex in adolescence

Dear Ask The Doctor: I am an 18 year old virgin. BUT I find myself CRAVING to have sex. the littlest thing turns me on. I am addicted to pornography and masturbating. EVEN though I have honestly tried my hardest to stop. Thinking about sex, watching other people have sex, and masturbating helps me take the edge of my day at least until I am done. Afterward i feel horrible about doing these activities. I have tried to stop myself from thinking and doing this but it's like it has a magnetic pull on me. Everything I do, everything I see reminds me of the scenes I have seen, or feelings I have felt. EVEN when I am in CHURCH!! Of all places, the smallest thing has me wanting to go to the bathroom or find a secluded place. If I can't be absolutely cured from this I at least want to know what THIS is. You know what I mean? That way one day when I am married and my husband is like, "Wow! Babe!" I can be able to say "Its honestly not my fault this is what happened..." Instead of being in the clueless states I am in now, where if put in that scenario i would only be allowed to say, "What can I say I am always horny!" I used to joke around about it, but now I am starting to worry just a little. Men and Women, Women and Women, all turn me on. Anything even in a regular movie if too people are making out I want to be there with them. It's almost embarrassing how much I think about sex. The two male figures in my life were abusive in one way or another. My father with words and being honest looking back and thinking about somethings makes me wonder if he ever molested me. My grand-father molested my mother when she was young. I am forced to wonder if he did the same to me. I know that if as a child you were molested you have a better chance of being abnormally attracted to sex. could that be my problem? What do you think doc... Am I a virgin sex-addict?

Dear Margarita: Sexual fantasies and interest along with increasing curiousity is usually normal during this phase in life and in adolescents.Adolescence is also the time when individuals discover their interest in the opposite sex AND  their own sexual indentity. However it is improtant to make sure that this does not affect your normal functioning in the society as well as does put you at harm. Since you do mention some history of abuse in the family it may be better to get professional help to talk about and consequently deal with the uncontrollable urges you have at times. Pyschotherapy may be useful in this case.