Dear Doctor, Thank you for providing the opportunity for

Patient : Dear Doctor, Thank you for providing the opportunity for people to safely ask their private questions. I personally appreciate that very much. I do have a problem, and I am not sure if it is a physical or just a psychological one. The thing is, I cannot find my wife sexually attractive anymore. It actually happened shortly after we got married. We have been married for over 7 years now. I am very quick at getting erections at any given situation, other than with my wife! I am sure that you have seen people like that all over the place and all the time, the problem is, most answers are about "the wife is losing control over her wieght, she does not take good care of herself...etc" so basically, it's all about the looks. I can assure you, it's not about that with me. The looks doesn't mean much to me when it comes to sex, it's about "connection" or as widely know as "Chemistry". I found that we don't have that "X factor" together. We both realize that, but we did not speak about it as we do not want to hurt each other's feelings. On the other hand, I love her and my kids. She is a very good person, and she is beautiful. So I know that the problem lies with me, not with her. For which, I seek help. Thank you once more for taking the time to read and answer, Noor.
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