Girlfriend thinks she doesn't enjoy sex

Patient

Q: Okay so my virgin girlfriend and I had sex for the first time last night. We also had sex again today but to no luck :s. She still didn't say it felt good (except for maybe a tiny bit).

She is a Christian girl and had never fingered herself in her life, and when we first met she never felt pleasure from me fingering her so I would just play with her clitoris instead. BUT, she didn't like direct clitoris stimulation either, only me basically rubbing the outside of her vagina which probably rubbed up against her clitoris.

What do you think the problem could be? We're both 18 and I'm not forcing her into this at all. I made sure she told me when she wanted to do it (she brought up sex in the relationship first). I'm just worried because she gets really down about this because she thinks she'll never be able to enjoy sex in her entire life.

I try to do a little foreplay beforehand, but both times we kinda rushed into it. Still that doesn't explain why she gets zero pleasure from my finger. If my finger doesn't work, why would my penis?

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