Herpes 1, looking to find out answers

Patient: I am 23 f, was told I have Herpes type 1… the numbers on it is >5 and I was just wondering if its bad a bad number? I just started dating a new guy, he’s completely clean. He’s never even kissed someone… and that’s where my problem starts. Since he saw my results he now refuses to kiss me because he thinks he will get it… but I don’t even know when I contracted it…. Is there a way to know when I got it, and If I am spreading it?