I find it difficult to meet people and talk


Q: I find it defecult to meet people and talk with them I feel shy to talk in public .
I can't say my opinion or what I really want to say.
I don't have confidence in my self , I don't believe in my self .
I have this fears that people may know what I am thinking of or know things about me.
I used to think that people are looking to me and concentrating on me.
I feel very shy to express my self to a friend. Know I fiend it defecult to meet new friends or even keep them.
Now I have fears for example; if I do anything
I say to my self I didn't do it right I should do it this way or that way,
If I talk to someone I say to my self I should not say this word or that word now This person is sad.
If I talk with my mother or father I am afraid that last make them unhappy.
I hesitate a lot.
I blame my self a lot.
I am always in stress.
I am 35.
This have been for along time.from childhood.
Thank you very much.


A:   Thank you for writing to us.

You need to see a Doctor or a counsellor to reach a diagnosis. Based on the description you have given, it seems that you have social phobia and some elements of depression. But you should see a Doctor to confirm this diagnosis.

See a Doctor for either counselling, behavior therapy or for medication to help you. All the best.

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