Oral sex after none for ten years of marriage

Patient

Q: Dear Doctors - I am coming up on 10 years of marriage to my husband who is the father of our two boys age 9 and 5. I feel that we are very happily married to each other and that we will spend the rest of our lives together. However - I have had some ups and downs with jobs for the past few years and I am feeling that I have over burdened my family a bit. I really feel so greatful that I have my husband and that he has been so supportive. I don;t know what I would do without him! Granted I am feeling a bit unconfident lately as a wife and a mother...BUT I want to start a new phase of sex life with my husband. We have never had a very exciting sex life and it is about time we start to spice it up. Lately my husband has been dropping hints that he wants oral sex. The problem is that the one and only time I HAD to perform oral sex was not a memorable one - a long story but basically incollege I had to BLOW 3 guys or be raped I felt. A friend was being raped - it was not a situation that I ever want to think of only now it has left my poor husband without for nearly 10 years!! I want more than anything to get over this fear- fobia!! But it has been trying!! I don;t even know where to start? How to do it? I can't bear the thought of the ejaculation - I have thought of trying it with a condom? Just not sure how to go about getting this task done for my poor husband! Any ideas or articles that can get me started? We really need to get on with our sex life!! I want the next 10 years to be the best 10 years!!
Thank you for you time!! - Amber

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