Shall I risk having sex?


Q: Hi,

I'm 19 and lost my virginity last year to my boyfriend. I never used to finger myself so I've always been really tight. Putting in a tampon for the first time killed. Anyway, I've had sex once but he basically put it half way in but not all the way as it hurt too much and I was not aroused. After that night, every time we'd see each other he'd finger me so hard and I became so wet every time, to the point that I can slip two or maybe more fingers in myself with no pain. I am single now but like this guy and I want to have sex with him. I just worry about the future because as an arab girl, I have to be a virgin on my wedding night. Hopefully I marry someone who won't care but if I don't, I have to make sure I come across as a virgin. I think faking blood would be simple as I can always marry on my period, or cut myself, or even buy that kit to fake blood. I can't have an operation unless I have the money. I just want your advice on what you think I should do. Can he feel that I'm not a virgin by the tightness of my vagina. Can I fake it by tightening myself using exercises way before hand and actually clenching myself on my wedding night and acting all shy. I know this is sad but we live in a bitch of a world where culture is so important. I'm a London student by the way. Please give me honest advice.


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